How Changing Your Mindset Can Change Your Life

By Jenny Amir -

Have you ever stopped to think about how powerful your mind is?  In truth, it is so powerful that there is little you couldn’t achieve with the right mindset.  Maybe you would like to feel better about yourself or be more confident – or perhaps lose weight or quit an unwanted habit?  However you would like to experience a personal change, it really is your mindset that makes all the difference – between happiness and unhappiness, success and failure, and whether you effectively “sink or swim” in any crisis.

For this reason it’s extremely important to develop a mindset that will help you achieve what it is you want – rather than what you don’t want.  Because all too often we can go through life without really understanding the impact that our mindset or attitude will have on the events that we experience.  We can get locked into a particular way of thinking or behaving, and without making a serious effort to change it, it can all too easily become an entrenched way of life.

But actually, by changing a simple thought-pattern, you can begin to change your experience of life.

Try having a think about the average quality and nature of your thoughts and self-talk – would you say they have a positive and encouraging tone, or a critical and judgemental tone? Positive thoughts generally make you feel better and open you up to possibilities, while negative thoughts tend to restrict you and limit your capability.

Ask yourself which of these categories your thoughts and self-talk is more likely to fall into:

 Positive, encouraging or Negative, discouraging

Nurturing or Critical

Understanding, patient or Judgemental, impatient

Accepting or Intolerant

Proactive, happy to take action or Passive, happy to be led

Loving or Unloving

If you find that you tend to have a lot of negative or critical self-talk, it is likely that someone you have known has said such things to you in the past and you have internalised it.

Here are some tips you can try to help yourself overcome any negative self-talk:

1)   If you can recognise where those negative or critical thoughts come from (do they remind you of someone?), you can start to change how you feel about that thought-pattern, as you realise those thoughts are not really true but just someone else’s inappropriate comment.

2)  Try challenging any negative assumptions you may have about yourself. If you question and challenge your negative assumptions as you become aware of them, you can start to weaken and dismantle them.  A negative assumption or belief is simply a thought that you no longer question and so it goes unchallenged.  So question it again – is that negative belief really true?

3)  On a slightly lighter note, you could also try mucking about with unwanted negative thoughts.  This might sound like a contradiction in terms, but if you can identify a negative phrase that regularly crops up in your thinking, try imagining the words being said in a funny voice or by a cartoon character, or perhaps being sung with silly music in the background. Sounds mad, I know, but it can actually begin to diminish the negative impact of the thoughts – try it and see!

Remember, creating positive change really does start with changing a simple thought…

Do get in touch and let me know how you get on, it’ll be great to hear from you!!

Best wishes,
Jenny

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3 Comments on “How Changing Your Mindset Can Change Your Life”

  1. A great post and so constructive. It’s so easy to think of yourself in a less than positive light, particularly if you’re working outside your comfort zone and pushing your boundaries. You are so right though – you can learn to control your thoughts and I love love your ‘use a silly voice’ idea – I’m going give that a go!

    1. I completely agree. I love this post. I’m so with you about feeling insecure especially when working outside your comfort zone and second guessing yourself. For me, it’s about not listening to that voice in your head saying “You can’t do it, you’re not good enough” and listening to a deeper intuitive wisdom in your gut saying “keep going, you’re doing fine”.

  2. Hi,

    Thank you both for your comments, it’s really lovely to know you found it helpful 🙂 And yes, you’re so right, the changes that come about through telling yourself something encouraging, positive or nurturing make a world of difference, especially when you’re able to create a habit of doing it more consistently… Do give it a go (it’ll be really interesting to know what differences you notice?) Best of luck!

    J 🙂

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