Did you know that most relationships don’t struggle because of a lack of love, but through a lack of understanding… ?
Everybody wants to be loved and as individuals we all prefer to receive love in a particular way. Interestingly however, we also tend to give and show love in the way we would most like to receive it ourselves – which might sound fine, but is that the way your partner / child / family prefers to receive it?
Because if it isn’t, then your particular “acts of love” may be wasted by being completely missed or not appreciated at all by your loved ones!
If you were to ask a group of people what indicates to them that they are “being loved”, you may be surprised at the range of different answers that pour forth! Try it and see – for one person it could be having a favourite meal made for them at home, for another person it’s maybe being taken out somewhere special, while another person might know they are loved by simply being cuddled up on the sofa.
But it’s so important to remember that while it might work for one person, it certainly doesn’t mean it works for others in the same way…
So here’s 3 tips to help you avoid the pitfalls, that’ll help you get on even better with those you love:-
1) Because people tend to give love in the way they would like to receive it, become more aware of the ways your partner (child / family member) shows their love for you. What sort of things do they get excited about? Try reciprocating in the same way and see what happens.
2) Make an effort to stay in “appreciation” mode. All too often in life we can get into habitual patterns and forget to stop and notice the good things, things that we probably take for granted (for instance, how maybe having a cup of tea made for you in the morning initially starts off as a lovely gesture – but then over time gradually becomes taken for granted, and which then becomes a source of irritation when it doesn’t appear!) Sound familiar?
3) Say or do something nice every day that is purely for the happiness or pleasure of your partner / child / family member. Interestingly, research has shown that in giving someone else kindness or pleasure, the emotional benefits are often experienced in equal measure by both parties!
Why not give it a go and see?
Here’s wishing you increased happiness in all your relationships – and if you have a moment to let me know how you get on, it’ll be really great to hear from you!
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